NEVER TELL A LIE
One of the worse situation a person can find himself in, is being tricked by his partner. A partner who lied as she feel insecure and wants to get married.
To lie to a partner and expect everlasting happiness is fooling one’s self. Women had been known to lie about being pregnant and there are men who love and trust the friendship will believe in what the woman says only to find out later that he was tricked into a marriage of lie.
On the other hand, a man will lie about being in a monogamous relationship, only for the woman to find out later that this is not true. He will easily convince a woman that she is the only one for him.
“Honesty is the best policy,” If a relationship starts without any trust and honesty, it is a doomed relationship from the beginning. This does not mean it will not work as love sometimes conquers all, but it will take a lot more work staying together than if the honesty was there from the beginning.
Do honesty and trust that there is enough love for a commitment as love is not something that can be forced.
I AM IN LOVE WITH AN OLD MAN
I am in 29 years old and I am in love with a sixty years old man. He is very kind and he shows me a lot of love. He has five children and is living with his wife. I am not educated. I have a child and the father of my child does not give me child support What should I do?
This is not a healthy relationship. You say the man loves you as this is what you want yourself to believe. He has a commitment to his wife and children and this commitment is love. “Love conquers all”, meaning if this man really loves you as he says, there is no one or nothing that could prevent him from being with you. My advice is to go back to school. You are still young. You do not need to be dependent on a man for financial support. If your child father does not give the child financial support, you could take him to court, but better yet, if you are independent and able to support your child that would be a great accomplishment for you. The father who doesn’t support a child that turns out to be a productive member of the society will end up having regrets that he will never be able to reverse. Also, do you thing this man is the right age for you?
SHE DOES NOT DESERVE YOUR LOVE
Toxic relationships can be toxic in many different ways. She
told him how much she loved him and yet she accepts gifts from another man. She
doesn’t let you meet her family and she always gives you excuses about her
whereabouts. She doesn’t appreciate you and yet you cannot leave her. Stop
fooling yourself as this kind of relationship will never bring happiness.
SUGAR DADDY
If you have an old washed up husband who is a Sugar Daddy, don’t worry.He is wrecking his life and his marriage. These girls are going to make him poorer than he is now. They will bring him done to nothing. If he has a car, and I suppose he does because these gold diggers does not want a bus man, the car is going to get old and his body is going to deteriorate faster than the vehicle. Consider him a silly man, be smart and take control of your life.
WOMEN DO YOU KNOW WHAT TYPE OF MAN YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH?
There are at least seven different types of men in our society. All women will meet at least one in their lifetime. If a woman is smart enough to educate herself on what to look for in a man, it will save her a lot of pain and agony later in the relationship. Do not get messed up by thinking that you can change someone, just work with what you have.
Be smart and look out for these things.
●The Pervert usually shows sign of abnormal sexual behavior. They cannot control themselves and will sleep with even your maid or dog as long as she wears a skirt.
●The Player is usually very complimentary. This is sometimes more than the ordinary as he is trying to hide something. He is very imaginative and a woman can be easily misled by his charm, and as soon as he leaves her house, he move on to the next woman with the exact compliments.
●The Mama’s Boy mother is very controlling. He fears his mother enough to be emotionally abusive to his woman. His mother will even curse his woman out and he will sit there and say nothing to defend her.
●The Work-Oholic will forget her existence when he is working. His work comes first and his family after. He will not be able to understand that all his family needs is love and attention and not just the loneliness of what he can offer them financially.
●The Controller is concerned about everything a woman does, even the clothes she wears. He will sometimes get violent with her for not doing everything he says. She is not usually allowed to express herself.
●The Smart-Ass is the man that loves a woman for what she has and not for whom she is. It can be for her beauty or for money. Once she looses these things, then he moves on to the next fool.
●Oh! But The Good Guy is very rare. He is the one who tries to be honest and reliable. The one who sees you for what you are inside and not what they can get from you. This person is hard to find and most women will never find someone like the good guy, but if you know which of these guys you have in your life, you will be able to understand and accept what you are dealing with.
There is no such thing as; “Night in Shining Armor”. Instead, look out for, “Sheep in Wolf Clothing”, as that is exactly what you are more likely to find. Be smart and do not let yourself be fooled.
HOT LOVER
He was always called,” twinkle fingers” by his friends, meaning that he touches and queries any and everything. To think such as smart person could be so curious in more of a petty way was almost unbelievable.
Mark was one of the most attractive young men to enter Baronial University. His popularity with his counterparts were quite astounding, but with women he was very unpopular. Women liked to do most of the talking, and for a man they thought he talked too much. All his dates would end up in some kind of disappointment. He always wondered that how such and intelligent and attractive man could not even get more than a date.
Sara had just enrolled in Baronial University. She was from out-of-state and knew no one at the university or even the state of Ariana. She was of a very quiet disposition. She also was a very smart girl, but unlike Mark, she was more of a wall-flower. She neither liked to be seen or heard.
Mark’s dorm room was on the first floor in room 225 and Sara’s dorm room was just across the hall from her at room 226. She had bumped into him on the first day she moved in. He was yapping so much that he didn’t notice where he was going.
“Pooch!”
“You again?” Sarah asked.
“What is your problem…Miss or whoever you are?” Mark looked annoyed.
Sarah did not answer; instead she thought to herself that this guy seems to be loosing it. This was the second time in a week he bumped into her because he was not paying attention. Instead, she just moved out of his way and went into her dorm.
Her first class was Math 101. She was good at all subjects but was a little weak in math and she knew that whenever she had a math class, she had to pay close attention to whatever the teacher was saying, so she picked a seat close to the front. She had her head bent while she flipped the pages of her math book.
“Hello there?” she suddenly recognized the voice.
“What is it with you, whatever you name is? Why are you following me?” she asked.
“Listen Miss, whatever your name is also.”
“The name is Sarah, not that it matters.”
“Sarah? Eeem..my mother’s name. For name sake, if I was rude to you in anyway I am sorry.”
“Apology accepted.” Mark stretched his arms out to her in a friendly gesture and said,”my name is Mark. Mark Saunders. May I sit next to you?”
“Not a problem”, she replied.
“Can we meet this evening after school?” he asked her.
“Not so fast, I just met you”, she replied.
“I am really not interested right now”. She gave him the answer that he had heard so many times that he felt really disappointed.
Sarah heard a knock on the door and she went to see who was at the door, instead, a note was under the door, she bent and picks the note up.” Could this be a note from the RA?” she asked herself. She quickly opened the note and started to read:
“Dear Sarah.
You are every man’s dream. I saw you on the very first day you moved in and I intentionally bumped into you as I find you very attractive. I was very happy when we formally introduced ourselves. My intentions towards you are more than honorable. I have met other girls here on campus but from the moment I set eyes on you, I knew I wanted you to be my girl.
Please say yes. The Ace Band is playing Saturday night and I would love to take you out. My phone number is 521-3721, you can use it anytime. Here is my email address also, mark@anderson.com. I will be waiting for that call or email. I am also on Face book, look me up.”
Sarah opened the door, walked across the hall and shoved the mail back under Mark’s door.
It seemed that Mark had gotten the message that she really wasn’t interested in starting a relationship. A few weeks had past and it looked as if he was avoiding her. However, his roommate had started showing some friendly gestures towards her. She liked the way he was polite to her and he was much quieter than his friend.
Mark’s roommate Jordan was not interested in her, he had a girlfriend, but Mark had poured his heart out to him about his feeling for Sarah and he just wanted to help. He knew all about his failing love affairs. All Mark could talk of with Jordan when they are alone, is how much he cared about Sarah.
“Mark if there is anything I can do for you, I will.” Jordan told Mark.
“Thank you Mark. I really do love this girl, but she will not give me the time of the day.
“Oh well Mark, Sarah is a very quiet girl and you kind of talk a little bit too much. You have to let her take the lead.”
“I am aware I have a problem with talking too much and I really care about this girl. I will try to do as you say, as I have to date this girl.”
CAN YOU TELL ME WHAT HAPPENED NEXT?
WHAT’S YOUR WORST DATE?
A: My worst date was never really a date. I met someone over the phone through business contact. I arranged to me him at the movies. He got there before me and on entering I saw him. He looked nothing like his voice and I turned and left.
B: My worst date is that my date gave me an address to pick her up. I did not have a car so I asked my friend to take me. When I got to the house, her friend came out and started laughing. I was so embarrassed. She gave me her friend address as they just wanted to make a joke.
C: My worst date was when I tried to kiss my date and she stuck her finger into my eye. She almost blinded me.
D: My worst date was when I saw a girl I was interested in walking with her friend. I invited to have something to eat and she ordered the most expensive thing on the menu for her and her friend. I did not have enough money to pay for the meal so I excused myself, went to the bathroom then left. The girl never spoke to me again.
E: Not my worst but my biggest regret. I went to the movies with this guy it was a blind date as he was too shy to find a woman on his own. He talked all the way through the movies and when we are out of the movies he did not know what to say. I ended up marrying him later. He was abusive and I divorced him. I should not have continued with the relationship after that first date.
TAKE NO ABUSE
No matter what sex you are, abuse is unacceptable.
Abuse of any kind, whether it be physical, verbal or emotional, is unacceptable and cannot be condoned. If you are in a relationship and your personal safety is threatened, you need to do what is necessary to protect yourself. The same applies to your personal happiness. If your relationship is in turmoil as a result of intimate partner abuse, then you need to make a decision that is in your best interest.
Talk about things took a rocky turn.
His behavior became disrespectful, abusive and aggressive.
You feel helpless and feels a sense of powerlessness.
One of the worse situation a person can find himself in, is being tricked by his partner. A partner who lied as she feel insecure and wants to get married.
To lie to a partner and expect everlasting happiness is fooling one’s self. Women had been known to lie about being pregnant and there are men who love and trust the friendship will believe in what the woman says only to find out later that he was tricked into a marriage of lie.
On the other hand, a man will lie about being in a monogamous relationship, only for the woman to find out later that this is not true. He will easily convince a woman that she is the only one for him.
“Honesty is the best policy,” If a relationship starts without any trust and honesty, it is a doomed relationship from the beginning. This does not mean it will not work as love sometimes conquers all, but it will take a lot more work staying together than if the honesty was there from the beginning.
Do honesty and trust that there is enough love for a commitment as love is not something that can be forced.I AM IN LOVE WITH AN OLD MAN
I am in 29 years old and I am in love with a sixty years old man. He is very kind and he shows me a lot of love. He has five children and is living with his wife. I am not educated. I have a child and the father of my child does not give me child support What should I do?
This is not a healthy relationship. You say the man loves you as this is what you want yourself to believe. He has a commitment to his wife and children and this commitment is love. “Love conquers all”, meaning if this man really loves you as he says, there is no one or nothing that could prevent him from being with you. My advice is to go back to school. You are still young. You do not need to be dependent on a man for financial support. If your child father does not give the child financial support, you could take him to court, but better yet, if you are independent and able to support your child that would be a great accomplishment for you. The father who doesn’t support a child that turns out to be a productive member of the society will end up having regrets that he will never be able to reverse. Also, do you thing this man is the right age for you?
SHE DOES NOT DESERVE YOUR LOVE
Toxic relationships can be toxic in many different ways. She told him how much she loved him and yet she accepts gifts from another man. She doesn’t let you meet her family and she always gives you excuses about her whereabouts. She doesn’t appreciate you and yet you cannot leave her. Stop fooling yourself as this kind of relationship will never bring happiness.
Toxic relationships can be toxic in many different ways. She told him how much she loved him and yet she accepts gifts from another man. She doesn’t let you meet her family and she always gives you excuses about her whereabouts. She doesn’t appreciate you and yet you cannot leave her. Stop fooling yourself as this kind of relationship will never bring happiness.
SUGAR DADDY
WOMEN DO YOU KNOW WHAT TYPE OF MAN YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH?
There are at least seven different types of men in our society. All women will meet at least one in their lifetime. If a woman is smart enough to educate herself on what to look for in a man, it will save her a lot of pain and agony later in the relationship. Do not get messed up by thinking that you can change someone, just work with what you have.
Be smart and look out for these things.
●The Pervert usually shows sign of abnormal sexual behavior. They cannot control themselves and will sleep with even your maid or dog as long as she wears a skirt.
●The Player is usually very complimentary. This is sometimes more than the ordinary as he is trying to hide something. He is very imaginative and a woman can be easily misled by his charm, and as soon as he leaves her house, he move on to the next woman with the exact compliments.
●The Mama’s Boy mother is very controlling. He fears his mother enough to be emotionally abusive to his woman. His mother will even curse his woman out and he will sit there and say nothing to defend her.
●The Work-Oholic will forget her existence when he is working. His work comes first and his family after. He will not be able to understand that all his family needs is love and attention and not just the loneliness of what he can offer them financially.
●The Controller is concerned about everything a woman does, even the clothes she wears. He will sometimes get violent with her for not doing everything he says. She is not usually allowed to express herself.
●The Smart-Ass is the man that loves a woman for what she has and not for whom she is. It can be for her beauty or for money. Once she looses these things, then he moves on to the next fool.
●Oh! But The Good Guy is very rare. He is the one who tries to be honest and reliable. The one who sees you for what you are inside and not what they can get from you. This person is hard to find and most women will never find someone like the good guy, but if you know which of these guys you have in your life, you will be able to understand and accept what you are dealing with.
There is no such thing as; “Night in Shining Armor”. Instead, look out for, “Sheep in Wolf Clothing”, as that is exactly what you are more likely to find. Be smart and do not let yourself be fooled.
HOT LOVER
He was always called,” twinkle fingers” by his friends, meaning that he touches and queries any and everything. To think such as smart person could be so curious in more of a petty way was almost unbelievable.
Mark was one of the most attractive young men to enter Baronial University. His popularity with his counterparts were quite astounding, but with women he was very unpopular. Women liked to do most of the talking, and for a man they thought he talked too much. All his dates would end up in some kind of disappointment. He always wondered that how such and intelligent and attractive man could not even get more than a date.
Sara had just enrolled in Baronial University. She was from out-of-state and knew no one at the university or even the state of Ariana. She was of a very quiet disposition. She also was a very smart girl, but unlike Mark, she was more of a wall-flower. She neither liked to be seen or heard.
Mark’s dorm room was on the first floor in room 225 and Sara’s dorm room was just across the hall from her at room 226. She had bumped into him on the first day she moved in. He was yapping so much that he didn’t notice where he was going.
“Pooch!”
“You again?” Sarah asked.
“What is your problem…Miss or whoever you are?” Mark looked annoyed.
Sarah did not answer; instead she thought to herself that this guy seems to be loosing it. This was the second time in a week he bumped into her because he was not paying attention. Instead, she just moved out of his way and went into her dorm.
Her first class was Math 101. She was good at all subjects but was a little weak in math and she knew that whenever she had a math class, she had to pay close attention to whatever the teacher was saying, so she picked a seat close to the front. She had her head bent while she flipped the pages of her math book.
“Hello there?” she suddenly recognized the voice.
“What is it with you, whatever you name is? Why are you following me?” she asked.
“Listen Miss, whatever your name is also.”
“The name is Sarah, not that it matters.”
“Sarah? Eeem..my mother’s name. For name sake, if I was rude to you in anyway I am sorry.”
“Apology accepted.” Mark stretched his arms out to her in a friendly gesture and said,”my name is Mark. Mark Saunders. May I sit next to you?”
“Not a problem”, she replied.
“Can we meet this evening after school?” he asked her.
“Not so fast, I just met you”, she replied.
“I am really not interested right now”. She gave him the answer that he had heard so many times that he felt really disappointed.
Sarah heard a knock on the door and she went to see who was at the door, instead, a note was under the door, she bent and picks the note up.” Could this be a note from the RA?” she asked herself. She quickly opened the note and started to read:
“Dear Sarah.
You are every man’s dream. I saw you on the very first day you moved in and I intentionally bumped into you as I find you very attractive. I was very happy when we formally introduced ourselves. My intentions towards you are more than honorable. I have met other girls here on campus but from the moment I set eyes on you, I knew I wanted you to be my girl.
Please say yes. The Ace Band is playing Saturday night and I would love to take you out. My phone number is 521-3721, you can use it anytime. Here is my email address also, mark@anderson.com. I will be waiting for that call or email. I am also on Face book, look me up.”
Sarah opened the door, walked across the hall and shoved the mail back under Mark’s door.
It seemed that Mark had gotten the message that she really wasn’t interested in starting a relationship. A few weeks had past and it looked as if he was avoiding her. However, his roommate had started showing some friendly gestures towards her. She liked the way he was polite to her and he was much quieter than his friend.
Mark’s roommate Jordan was not interested in her, he had a girlfriend, but Mark had poured his heart out to him about his feeling for Sarah and he just wanted to help. He knew all about his failing love affairs. All Mark could talk of with Jordan when they are alone, is how much he cared about Sarah.
“Mark if there is anything I can do for you, I will.” Jordan told Mark.
“Thank you Mark. I really do love this girl, but she will not give me the time of the day.
“Oh well Mark, Sarah is a very quiet girl and you kind of talk a little bit too much. You have to let her take the lead.”
“I am aware I have a problem with talking too much and I really care about this girl. I will try to do as you say, as I have to date this girl.”
CAN YOU TELL ME WHAT HAPPENED NEXT?
WHAT’S YOUR WORST DATE?
A: My worst date was never really a date. I met someone over the phone through business contact. I arranged to me him at the movies. He got there before me and on entering I saw him. He looked nothing like his voice and I turned and left.
B: My worst date is that my date gave me an address to pick her up. I did not have a car so I asked my friend to take me. When I got to the house, her friend came out and started laughing. I was so embarrassed. She gave me her friend address as they just wanted to make a joke.
C: My worst date was when I tried to kiss my date and she stuck her finger into my eye. She almost blinded me.
D: My worst date was when I saw a girl I was interested in walking with her friend. I invited to have something to eat and she ordered the most expensive thing on the menu for her and her friend. I did not have enough money to pay for the meal so I excused myself, went to the bathroom then left. The girl never spoke to me again.
E: Not my worst but my biggest regret. I went to the movies with this guy it was a blind date as he was too shy to find a woman on his own. He talked all the way through the movies and when we are out of the movies he did not know what to say. I ended up marrying him later. He was abusive and I divorced him. I should not have continued with the relationship after that first date.
TAKE NO ABUSE
No matter what sex you are, abuse is unacceptable.
Talk about things took a rocky turn.
His behavior became disrespectful, abusive and aggressive.
So you stat dating someone else.
Then he begged you to take him back.
The cycle start all over again.
You then call the police and he get locked up.
Your are scared and you are afraid to be around him.
The things started going wrong in his life and you feel guilty.
You still have feelings for him.
Tension builds up.
There is a breakdown in communication.
Tension escalates and becomes uncontrollable.
Physical violence that result with injuries.
You are traumatized and you are
You feel helpless and feels a sense of powerlessness.
IN YOUR BEST INTEREST"BE WISE "
You are in a relationship with someone for a very long time and what happen, he went off and marry someone else. You might consider the years you have spent with this person as enjoyable. However, as you look back, you have come to realize that he/she has used you as convenience while his bona fide man/woman was somewhere waiting on him/her. You were just being used to satisfy sexual gratification.
This person has no integrity. He/she is not sensitive to other people feelings. This person is selfish and evil. He/ she don’t care. You should wise up and move on no matter how much it hurts as the longer you stay with that person. Or the longer you feel sorry for yourself more this person will win by letting sadness take over your life.
There is always better on the outside so you have to allow your heart to mend and move on to bigger and better things.
FOOD FOR THOUGHT
What does the heart seek. Nothing but love for food and honesty for comfort. True love makes a person happy only when trust and honesty is given. One of the worse misery in life is to give all the right ingredients of love to someone and in return get only lies and deception. "Before completely give your heart just know that it must be worth you while". "A fool in love is no other than a darn fool".
THE GOOD
Speak only what the heart feels. One should always aspire to do good things in life. Giving should be free and comes directly from the heart. If you have doubt about anything at all you should think it through thoroughly before venturing into it.
There is the very sad story of a window who thought she could not have children so she adopted a beautiful baby girl. A few years later she became pregnant so she treated this poor girl badly.
Misfortune befall her and the girl she rejected became her savior.
PLAYING WITH MY EMOTIONS
When a woman date a married man, she is playing with her own emotions. Yes, a married man might be attracted to her as she is beautiful, young and easy. The woman might just be using the man for financial gains. Beauty fades and when it does. What next?
Women should think wisely, invest in their own future as nothing goods comes out of dating a married man.
WHERE WERE YOU BEFORE I MET YOU
I was somewhere around your heart. Now that I have found you, your heart is my home. These are words of love which are best told in the book" PASSION &FATE"
THE WEDDING NIGHT
Mr. Romantic waiting for the wedding night to fulfill his crazy fantasy. He chase all the girls around town, has a woman that he sees regularly and still profess his undying love for his fiancé. Will he be faithful to his woman once he gets married? What will a man not do to appease his ego?
UNADULTERATED LOVE
Talk about the wedding, he loves her and want to spend the rest of his life with her. Its all in the book,"Passion and Fate".
WARM AND COMFORTABLE
Warm and comfortable is not true love but it's hard to understand what you feel if you had never experienced true love.From the book" Passion and Fate"When a woman date a married man, she is playing with her own emotions. Yes, a married man might be attracted to her as she is beautiful, young and easy. The woman might just be using the man for financial gains. Beauty fades and when it does. What next?
Women should think wisely, invest in their own future as nothing goods comes out of dating a married
man.
Never Lie To Your Partner
123 Too Quick
Why would someone looking for a serious relationship jump
into one without checking the background of the person who he/she intend to
spend a lifetime together with?
Ten years have gone by and the facts start to unravel, then
what? A divorce? This could have been avoided if the facts were known.
“I met this woman while working at a new job. She was very
attractive looking and she told me that she was single and was not in a
relationship. I was very attracted to her so I believed her. The first few
weeks we met, I spent a lot of time with her. She finally invited me to her
house and I saw a family picture of her with a man and two children. I asked
her about it and she told me that it was her brother and his children and she
was just in the photo. I believed her.
Two years after we met, she told me that she had to travel and she would
have been away for a while. I waited and waited and she did not get in touch
with her. I went to her house and saw the same man in the picture packing
things as if she was moving. I asked about her, and he introduce himself as her
husband and told me that they were moving. I was so shocked to hear this. How can
I ever trust another woman?”
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